"At 12 Years Old, I Knew I Was Supposed to Help People"
Theresa Hubbard and Walker Bird
"Problems don't leave people, no matter where they are in the world." In this inspiring episode of My Inner Knowing, therapist Carlen Sims shares his remarkable journey of discovering his purpose at just 12 years old through AOL Instant Messenger conversations and following that string of inner knowing across continents. Join hosts Theresa Hubbard and Walker Bird as they explore how Carlen's mission to help others evolved from childhood compassion to professional therapy.
Key Takeaways
* Finding your purpose can happen unexpectedly early - Carlen discovered his calling to help others at age 12 through a simple online conversation
* Human struggles are universal regardless of circumstances - The same core problems affect people across all socioeconomic levels and cultures
* Imposter syndrome doesn't mean you're not qualified - Even feeling underqualified at 19, Carlen was able to help adults twice his age process their grief
* Parents can be our greatest teachers - Carlen's father used psychology techniques in everyday parenting that later influenced his professional approach
* "Borrowing calm" is essential in both parenting and therapy - Creating a regulated emotional environment allows others to feel safe enough to process their feelings
* Small steps build confidence against self-doubt - Creating achievable success plans helps overcome internal criticism and builds momentum
* Breaking generational patterns requires conscious choice - Each generation can improve upon the parenting they received by acknowledging what was missing
Whether you're searching for your purpose, struggling with self-doubt, or trying to be a more present parent, this conversation offers practical wisdom from someone who found his calling early and continues refining it through intentional growth and self-reflection.
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